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To My Soon-To-Be Ex-Husband

by Loobell

Thank you for your explanation, I see you through different eyes; not the eyes of a lover, even a friend, I no longer feel comfort when I see you. When you said that I’d let myself go, not only did you cut me to the quick, but you told a blatant untruth to make yourself feel better about your infidelity. We should be growing old together and enjoying the satisfaction of a job well done, watching our precious children go off into the big wide world. I finally understand what you are, what you have always been and anguish has formed deep in my soul for my lost good years. Well now it’s my time, so let me ask you for a favour, you surely owe me one for my years of selfless dedication to you. Hold my towel - I’m taking a well earned dip in Lake Me.

6S

Loobell - harassed middle aged mother, badly lapsed blogger - is fed up with taking the blame.

21 comments:

Quin said...

well done. well worded, well put, well said... well done. you are well on your way to having an anonymous dolt commenter.

Madam Z said...

I'd be wrapping "my towel" tight around "soon-to-be-ex"'s soon-to-be-non-operable-formerly-favorite body part.

Enjoy "Lake Me." Let yourself go, in a good way!

Bob Jacobs said...

Nicely done, Loobell.

Anonymous said...

This is dolt-approved. Well done.

Linda said...

Yes. Lake Me. Love it, love it, love it. Enjoy the dip. Peace...

Mister Left said...

Can I take a dip in Lake You?

Anonymous said...

mister left is also dolt-approved. Nice.

austere said...

lake me! bravo.

Pam said...

Love it. I hear "Lake Me" is a great place to be, and we should all go there now and then. You've managed to capture a heck of a lot of loss and hope in these six sentences!

Loobell said...

Thank you all for the positive comments on my first attempt at public writing. This rather indulgent, personal piece, has been part of my letting go process. I think quite often women like me, find themselves in similar situation once past our sell by date. But it is only one person's opinion...One man's trash is another's treasure.:-) .. and as for writing.. I am afraid there is more in the pipeline!
Anon- Lol @ dolt approved!
Mr Left- Cheeky ! ;-) At least you are not "Mr Right" whom I have found seems to have a first name of "Always".

Big Ev said...

WOW, "To your soon to be ex husband", is from the heart, clear,concise and to the point. Very well said Loobell. Do you fancy writting one for me,"To my soon to be ex wife." You say it so much better than I ever could. By the way, your no mans trash baby, not even his, bet he knows this now.

Anonymous said...

Very nice six. I have felt all this about my wife.

Good Luck

Loobell said...

Anon #2 The Best of luck to you also. I do hope things work out for you as well. :-)
Ev- Thank you- I will pay you later ;-)

Mike said...

very brave,
very honest,
very poignant,
very precise,
very apt.
You have peeled away some hurt with a scaple of words.
You have my admiraion and my empathy.

Paul said...

blimey u lot all depressing!!

surely its a good thing to write these things and move on?
i mean, good for u lou, get it done move on, and stuff.. u know wot u want, thats u all over, just do it, get it done.
everyone happier then, change is bad til its changed then its the norm.
xxxx

RC said...

Nicely stated!

Bob Jacobs said...

Came back for another read. Thanks for posting.

Matt Schmidt said...

The whole thing is a cliche'. And a bad metaphor, too. What it expresses is the first part of the extrication from the relationship, but there is no complexity. No recognition that is was the author's choice to marry, to bear children, to leave. The sense of one-sidedness is shallow, it cannot be true. 'Lake Me', reflects the surface of the author, not her deepth.

Loobell said...

i think someone once said, "i want to write, not analyze with words"
;-) Matt thank you for taking the time to comment I am honored. I am indeed deepth..... as a puddle.

Estelle said...

Well Loo, Estelle here, never a truer word spoken, i think they all are illusioned about themselves, but hey! we are strong...Love you and Ev both as i know him. He is going to be that Guy for you, and you are the Gal for him. Well written xx

Anonymous said...

Love it, every word, keep in mind your good years are not lost.